Dana Sibilsky—Why You Should Excuse and Forgive

After you are wronged and the starting influx of feeling has passed, you’re given another test: Do you overlook the individual? By pardoning, you let go of your grievances and judgments and permit yourself to recuperate. While this may sound great in principle, by and by absolution can at times feel unimaginable.

To figure out how to excuse, you should first realize what pardoning is definitely not. A large portion of us hold in any event a few misguided judgments about pardoning.

By pardoning, you are tolerating the truth of what happened and figuring out how to live in a condition of determination with it. This can be a steady process—and it doesn’t fundamentally need to incorporate the individual you are excusing. Pardoning isn’t something you accomplish for the individual who wronged you; it’s something you accomplish for you.

So if pardoning is something you accomplish for yourself and in the event that it can help you recuperate, why is it so hard?

There are a few reasons: You’re loaded with considerations of reprisal or requital; you appreciate feeling predominant; you don’t know how to determine the circumstance; you’re dependent on the adrenaline that outrage gives; you self-recognize as a “casualty”; or you’re worried about the possibility that that by forgetting you need to re-interface—or lose your association—with the other individual. These reasons not to pardon can be determined by turning out to be more acquainted with yourself, with your musings and emotions, and with your limits.

You will in any case recall what happened, however you will never again be bound by it. Having worked through the sentiments and realized what you have to do to reinforce your limits or get your needs met, you are better ready to deal with yourself later on. Forgetting the other individual is an eminent approach to respect yourself. It certifies that you should be cheerful. Forgive because YOU deserve it.


Patience Is A Virtue

There’s a saying that goes, “Patience is a virtue,” but I’m curious of how many people know what it means. If I look up the word “virtue” in two different dictionaries, of course I’m going to get two different definitions. One definition of the word “virtue” says, “the quality of doing what is right and avoiding what is wrong.” The other definition is, “Behavior showing high moral standards.” If I put that together with the old saying, patience is a virtue is to wait and behave without getting upset.

We can’t deny that we have lost the meaning to this saying and become more impatient as a society. Today, everything is done fast. We had to wait for the mail when I was growing up whereas today it’s mostly instant E-mail and text messages.  My mother and grandmother would prepare dinner for me as a child and it would take time. I remember waiting 30 minutes just to be able to eat and if you wait that long at a restaurant, people begin to get angry and will either leave or not tip. Today, preparing food is what we do on big holidays for the entire family and we live out of the freezer by eating frozen dinners that are already prepared for us.

The microwave saves us so much time having to wait for a stove or an oven to cook it, however even microwaves seem to be taking too long for us. On my lunch break at work, I recall seeing a co-worker standing by the microwave, staring into it and saying, “Come on….Come on, come on, come on…” to it. Fast-food restaurants  have ruined us with their offer of hot meals made ready to be eaten while on the go. If you eat out often, you’ve already been teaching yourself some terribly bad habits of what to expect from life. We have been training ourselves in the ways of instant gratification and that shows the lack of discipline we have acquired.

The Psychology Behind The Smile

Have you ever heard that smiling changes your mood? At first, I didn’t think much about it. I have been sad and tried smiling, but alas, I was still sad. There are a few sayings and quotes that support this claim that smiling can have an affect on your mood and it all starts with the brain.  It has been a saying that has been around for many a generation that goes, “Smile for a while to make bad feelings docile.” or even in the words of Thich Hanh who said, “Sometimes joy is the reason why you smile, but sometimes your smile can be the reason for your joy.”

What is there to smile about?

Other than to be grateful that you woke up today and when you got out of bed your legs still worked, there is plenty of reasons to smile. First and foremost, the smile is a universal language that known to everyone that if you smile at them, you’re friendly, warm and welcoming. This is the reason why I don’t believe in pretending to like someone by smiling. My mother would always tell me, “Dana Sibilsky, you’re lying to their face with your face by making that person believe you are warm and welcoming to that person.” Let’s be honest here.

When you smile, you appear more attractive unless you are a man. Apparently, women find men who don’t smile as much more masculine and attractive. Being a woman myself, I dub this as false. Smiling has been recorded in multiple researches to lift up your mood and even the mood of those who see you smile because, as mentioned before, smiling makes you seem friendly. Who doesn’t feel happier when surrounded by friendly people?

Smiling is catchy

Probably something that is more contagious than the flu or a common cold, smiling ranks up higher on the list. If you smile at someone it’s a normal reaction for people to smile back and if they don’t then it’s simply because they have made an effort not to return a smile. The reasons why it’s catchy are in the mind.

Happy smiling brains

It’s all in your head. No, literally it’s all in your head. Studies found that the stress fighting neuropeptides are activated when you smile. These little guys are what help the body understand that we are happy, sad, stressed, angry, etc.. Other chemicals are brought into play just by spreading a smile across your face such as endorphins, dopamine and serotonin which help you feel good—especially the endorphins, which are most powerful pain reliever known to man and they are natural! That doesn’t mean you’ll get a rush of endorphins to end your pain just by smiling.

In conclusion, there is plenty to smile about and with this information, there are many more reasons to smile and smile big. Even if you have to “fake it until you make it,” a smile will bring you up to where you should always be.

Berries Are A Great Source Of Antioxidants

The road to good health is closer than you may think no matter where you may be in your health right now. Your health can be influenced and changed at anytime and it’s just easy as putting the right foods in your body. One of the most overlooked little qualities that make a big difference in our journey to healthier living and feeling better are antioxidants. First, let’s get all the technical stuff out of the way.

What are antioxidants and how do they benefit me?

Antioxidants are natural to your body. They are a microscopic matter that prevents oxidation in the body which means antioxidants can prevent the effects of aging and keep you healthy.


Oxidation is to combine or become combined chemically with oxygen. Antioxidants stop this from happening, which is good! Oxidation in our body happens also naturally due to our modern way of life. Poor eating habits, drinking, smoking, pollution; these are big in the causes for oxidation. When oxidation happens to the molecules, the molecules split and become free radicals.

Those are bad, right?

They sure are! Not all things free are necessarily good! Free radicals are nothing more than molecules that are missing an electron due to being oxidized. These guys go in search of other molecules and break them down. Think of it as a molecule killing another molecule because it wants what the other has. Almost as if it is jealous. When this happens, you have less healthy molecules in your body and that will lead to faster aging.

And antioxidants stop this?

Indeed! Antioxidants work by pairing themselves with free radical molecules. This prevents them from damaging more of the molecules you need. Think of it as free radicals are mad and after other molecules, but antioxidants step in and give these radicals a hug. Now everything is K.

Ok, let’s move on…

Any parent wants their family safe and healthy, that’s just common sense. The good news is that there are a few recipes you can make easily at home for your loved ones that will have them feeling better, healthier and get you a few compliments can be well within your family’s budget.

A family favorite treat is a berry tart. This can be likened to a pie and treated as a dessert after meal time, but it’s so healthy that it can be eaten anytime.

Berries, specifically blueberries, are one of the most richest foods in antioxidants and as we learned, antioxidants are closely linked to good health. Blueberries are exploding with vitamin K which aids the body in blood clotting and preventing excessive bleeding.

A great way to stay healthy and be sure your family is too is to look at a few recipes using berries. You can even get into different drink recipes. When it comes keeping your family’s health, the best nutrition you can give your children as a mother comes from Mother Nature.


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The 411 On Mental Disorders

As it turns out, mental disorders are fairly common and there are 3 that are more popular in most people. In fact, you probably know of someone with one of these conditions. The three most popular mental disorders are:

What are these disorders and how do they work? Any kind of mental illness is classified as a “disease” that can cause your thoughts and behaviors little or major distress. This causes a person to be unable to manage and operate through life with ease. Let’s take a look at these conditions in detail.


The bipolar disorder seems to be the most common. Just about everyone seems to blame their bad behavior and impatience on this one. The disorder is categorized as a manic-depressive illness and it is a common brain disorder that causes sudden and strange mood changes. Bipolar disorder also affects a person’s energy levels and makes it a challenge for them to take on the normal day-to-day tasks. If someone has bipolar disorder, you’ll know because the signs that speak the loudest are not subtle, but are instead rather ruthless. The signs that are subtle, you may not notice. The results of bipolar disorder aren’t pretty. The symptoms can cause relationships to fail, failure in the workplace and suicide is not out of the question either for someone who has this disease. Bipolar disorder can be treated and it is important that is treated with haste.

Where does it come from?

Sadly, the bipolar disorder is in the genetics of your family line. Research and studies say the “bipolar gene” is more common in males as they are more likely to develop bipolar disorder than others.


There is no cure for bipolar disorder, unfortunately. However, there are treatments that work successfully over a long period of time. The treatments provides relief for people with bipolar disorder and aids them in having mood swings under control far better than without the treatment, no matter how severe the symptoms may be. When taking medications, be careful. Not everyone will respond to the same medication the same way as people are different and so are the severities of each person’s bipolar disorder.


Panic disorder is can be serious and isn’t the same as normal fear. A panic disorder is a mental condition and type of anxiety that is completely random and will happen without a cause or sign of it coming and that is what makes this mental disorder so scary. You’ll recognize a person with panic disorder because when displaying sudden symptoms of fear and anxiety. As for symptoms on the outside, a person may display sudden sweating, rapid breathing and their heart begins racing.

Where does it come from? 

Like bipolar disorder we recently covered, panic disorder can run through the family tree. Stressful events and/or extreme changes in a person’s life can trigger panic attacks in anyone. If these panic attacks continue over and over again, it becomes a disorder.


Counseling is the most common way to help reach a peace of mind again through psychotherapy.  This counseling will focus on how a person responds emotionally during the mental illness is active. Treatment of this disorder requires sensitivity in order to help people to understand and take care of their disorder.



Depression is by far one of the most common disorders known to research. This isn’t your typical sadness. We often say we feel depressed when our team loses or things just don’t go our way. Such things are said by people who don’t understand how depression works. Depression takes a long time to get into and a long time to get out of. When you have depression, it negatively takes over your entire life and everyone around you suffers.

Where does it come from?

it is believed that there are types of depression that are tied to us by our families. This doesn’t mean you are exempt if you’ve never been depressed before. People without family histories of depression are can also be at risk of acquiring the depression disorder through devastating, tragic events that may happen in your life, much like the panic disorder. One example out of many of such a cause would be a dearly loved one passing.


So many people with the depression mental illness have lost hope in themselves and never seek treatment. All is not lost as it is important to remember that every storm will eventually pass and those with even the most severe depression can be restored and reclaim their lives again. There are medications, counseling (such as psychotherapies) that can treat people with depression successfully.


The medical information on this site is provided only as a source of information. The information provided is not to be used or relied on for any purpose to diagnose or as treatment. This information is not intended to be patient education, does not create any patient-physician relationship, and should not be used as a substitute for professional diagnosis and treatment. Upon visiting this site, you agree to the previously mentioned terms and conditions. These terms and conditions may be subject to change or supplemented at any given time.

Health Research And Why It All Matters

When people hear the word “research,” most often than not people begin to think of it having to do with standard medical care. While research is important, medical research has a specific mission. As we know, the term to describe how doctors tend to our illnesses, ailments or injuries is known as medical care. Medical care serves one purpose that that is to help you feel better and recover and through this you are directly benefited.


Medical research comes in to provide studies  in order to learn and practice on how to enhance and work towards mastering the current treatments. Through research, we learn how new drugs and vaccines can benefit us and through study, we gain knowledge and develop new medical devices to assist us with surgeries and diagnosis. One downside to the studies and researches performed is on the shoulders of those who volunteer to be the test subjects. They are not always benefited and things don’t always work in their favor. Test subjects put themselves at a risk because it is unknown if a treatment, drug or procedure being tested and studied is improved, worse or has no changes at all. This is why we need medical study.

Anxiety And Medication

There are different types of anxieties and likewise, anti-anxiety medications are not the same. Knowing the difference between the different anxieties and medications to treat the various mental conditions is important when using treating anxiety. It’s important to know this information because of the risks and benefits that come with each medication class and how extremely they can differentiate from one to another. It’s also important to note that specific medications for anxiety could possibly lessen the success of mental disorder treatment by psychological means rather than medical.




The medical information on this site is provided only as a source of information. The information provided is not to be used or relied on for any purpose to diagnose or as treatment. This information is not intended to be patient education, does not create any patient-physician relationship, and should not be used as a substitute for professional diagnosis and treatment. Upon visiting this site, you agree to the previously mentioned terms and conditions. These terms and conditions may be subject to change or supplemented at any given time.

Healthy Eating For Your Brain

This topic is on brain health and what you can do to keep your brain healthy and sharp. As you may have guessed, taking care of your mind can be as easy as eating the right things and normally the right foods can be the best medicine. Recently, I had posted the quality of food consumed affects your quality of living, even your brain health. There are a few foods that can greatly benefit you long term and we’ll get into those. What most people don’t know is that eating healthy can greatly lower your risk of diabetes and hypertension. It will also lower your risk of taking on heart disease and newer research is beginning to show that Alzheimer’s disease as well as dementia can be prolonged and possibly prevented!

First, let us start with the obvious: Fish. For an animal that spends so much time in the water and still smells so bad, it still packs a healthy punch of essential nutrients that are vital to brain and heart health. As far as medicine goes, they aren’t always as great as the real thing and great examples of Omega-3’s rest in highly nutritious fish such as salmon, mackerel and tuna, which you can pick up at any nearby grocer. These few fish are highly rich in omega-3 fatty acids which are crucial for heart health, not to mention docosahexaenoic acid.


There’s good news for all you herbivores out there. Your lush, dark leafy greens are absolutely exploding with brain power goodness like vitamin E to keep you and your brain feeling young for many years to come. Vitamin E is used to help treat or prolong brain diseases such as Alzheimer’s as well as a failing nervous system. Other benefits of vitamin E help aid Parkinson’s disease, those annoying night cramps, as well as restless leg syndrome.

Our favorite thing to eat as children has some pretty impressive benefits as well. Peanut butter is a source of healthy fats and vitamin E. It’s no surprise that nuts are good for the body anyway with walnuts ranking so high in nutrition, they are now considered a drug and almonds following up close. When it comes to walnuts, the omega-3 fatty acids that walnuts contain has been researched and studied to show they help aid in lowering cholesterol levels as well as prevention against strokes and heart disease. These miracle nuts can soothe arthritis and fight off mental illnesses and other inflammatory diseases.

A well known health guru once said, “Eat berries every day,” and to this day those words prove to be word of wisdom. Berries, such as blueberries, are loaded with incredible vitamins that your body needs daily. The first true fact about berries is the quality of antioxidants they provide. Antioxidants delay some types of cell damage mostly found in man-made processed foods from ingredients we can’t pronounce or prevent cell damage altogether. The Antioxidants found in fruit, vegetables and even stronger in berries free your body of harmful free radicals which can negatively impact your body and your health in several ways, such as aging faster and losing memory. In terms of antioxidants, don’t overdo it. Too many antioxidants can turn on you, causing you to having a stroke.

Health In Eating Habits

Every person from all walks of life have to eat for  more reasons than just growth. Food is needed for life and maintaining our health, or at least trying to. People vary greatly from person to person and this has a lot to do with our age, stage of life (such as a child, adult or elderly) and our genetics. Young children may seem to eat a lot, but this is because they small meals about four times a day as they slowly mature. Sooner or later, children grow and develop eating on a schedule such as eating three times a day. When becoming teenagers, that pattern is increased to 4 or more times a day again due to young adults snacking between meals.

Have you noticed Americans are bloated and Europeans aren’t? A lot of it has to do with the way we eat. In America, we grab a meal bar or a poptart and run out the door in a rush for work. That’s our breakfast. We then eat a decent sized lunch and upon settling down for the night, we eat a large dinner fit for a king and go to bed. In Poland, for example, things are done backwards from our lifestyle. They eat a large breakfast that empowers through through the day. That large breakfast is usually enough that they don’t care for lunch and proceed to eating a small dinner before relaxing and retiring to bed. It’s highly important we stop eating such large meals before going to bed in order to effectively lower weight gain due to gastroesophageal reflux.