Spotlight On Brandon Colker

I was just sitting at the kitchen table last night when a thought came to me. I get so caught up with talking about art, especially my art, I don’t take the time to put the spotlight on the people who have got me to where I am. After all, neither of us are where we are in our lives by our own doing, but because of the people in our lives. One particular person who comes to mind who has been a big blessing in my life as well as a great friend would be Brandon Colker.

Brandon is a bit of a genius if I dare to say so myself. He has recently released a major book to the cyber shelves of Amazon entitled, “Brandon Colker’s How To Make Big Bucks from Big Blogs,” and already it has seen some incredible net traffic and volume. The book has made bloggers out of those who never thought they had what it took to become a blogger or never cared to BE a blogger, but for those who were already bloggers prior to reading this masterpiece of a book, I suppose you could say their “blogging game” has shot through the roof.

Brandon Colker has always had a way with people and a desire to see others succeed so I guess it’s not such a big surprise to me that he would release such a book aimed at turning what millions of people do every day into income.

We had a bit of a discussion about the book just because I had a few questions about it. I wanted to know, what if someone didn’t have a big blog to make big bucks from? For all of you who blog as well as myself, we know that creating a big blog with a huge following takes time, time, more time, patience, practice and more time. Basically, to get a get a big blog you’ll need to be writing every day as a full time job and some of us just don’t have that kind of time. Brandon’s response to my question was perfect. “If you don’t have a big blog or no blog at all, don’t sweat it! The book will walk you through the process and give descriptive steps of what it takes to get a big blog. The book is like a guide. We are building a big blog together. I wrote this with the newest person in mind.”

Dana Sibilsky Artist Are Going Broke

In today’s time it is even more difficult to be an artist that it was maybe 50 years ago. Technology has drastically helped us as artist, but it has also hindered us as well. Think about the music business and those who are music artist. A lot of the revenue generated from the music was through record sells and CDs. Today, people can find any song in the world on YouTube.com and find a website to download the MP3.

If you do digital art, the best way to market yourself is through internet, but if it is on a website, anyone who knows how can simply screenshot and take your work without payment. These are troubling times for artist in every field. In my group formed for artist, the members have before asked me, “Dana Sibilsky, what are we going to do? How do we drive sales for ourselves as entrepreneurs?” Indeed, this is an issue for me as well and this question is one I wish I could answer. Artists are going broke.

Home-Schooling My Children

When I was out last night, I ran into a group of friend I have not seen in ages and surprisingly they are still keeping up with each other and the latest gossip. I thought they wouldn’t recognize me, but to my surprise, they did and welcomed me with open arms. Of course, questions and updates about life and family were asked for, but the biggest shock wasn’t that I had gotten married more a decade ago or had children, no. The biggest shock was that I home-school my children rather than sending them to public school.

Going to class in a public school environment is not by any means the only approach to turn into a a professional. It has been demonstrated that home-taught people are pretty much as fruitful, if not more than the individuals who get a state funded instruction. I comprehend the relationship between the two as a distinction in my instructive foundation and that of my little sister. I appreciate being an understudy and learning!

Growing up, I was regularly pitiful when I became “under the weather” because I would miss school, not my friends or a critical test, but rather the reality I missed the chance to gain some new useful knowledge. As an understudy in the Michigan government funded educational system or better known as public school, I got an above normal instruction contrasted with the classroom standard. I was a genuine learner. I needed to pick up learning and comprehension of everything by study, direction, and experience. I am not by any means the only individual from my family that shares this thought process.

It appears that my parents brought me up into this world to long for learning, despite the fact that my dad had just a secondary school degree and my mom had only a GED. In spite of my sublime involvement in state funded educational systems and the increment in instructive government financing, kids may be taught the same, if not better through the folks in a home environment educational program through customized projects for the child.

Dana Sibilsky—Financial Struggles of a SAHM

A couple of years prior, I was continually seeing those stupid advertisements, and each time I saw one I’d murmur thoughtfully, wishing there truly was a true blue way that I could win some cash without abandoning my longing to be at home with my children.

I remember it like it was yesterday—the tallying out change from the change jug to purchase bananas before the following paycheck and the welcome of a dinner imparted to companions and realizing that it would offer help to your contracted basic supply finance… the tears of dissatisfaction at not having the capacity to extend the dollars very to the extent you’d like, and making troublesome choices on what to do without. It wasn’t easy back then, but it could be worse for those starting out in these times.

There are numerous online colleges that offer remote positions that can be worked from a home office. Without a doubt, these sorts of positions regularly oblige some kind of accreditations, however they can be beneficial to a great degree. I have worked for a local university before as an extra employee for about 2 years in the past. I began low maintenance, and moved to full time soon after I hit my one year commemoration. I have 3 children and this position meets expectations superbly for me while satisfying my need to stay included in keeping up my training. I couldn’t envision a more impeccable occupation for me right now.

Dana Sibilsky—Why You Should Excuse and Forgive

After you are wronged and the starting influx of feeling has passed, you’re given another test: Do you overlook the individual? By pardoning, you let go of your grievances and judgments and permit yourself to recuperate. While this may sound great in principle, by and by absolution can at times feel unimaginable.

To figure out how to excuse, you should first realize what pardoning is definitely not. A large portion of us hold in any event a few misguided judgments about pardoning.

By pardoning, you are tolerating the truth of what happened and figuring out how to live in a condition of determination with it. This can be a steady process—and it doesn’t fundamentally need to incorporate the individual you are excusing. Pardoning isn’t something you accomplish for the individual who wronged you; it’s something you accomplish for you.

So if pardoning is something you accomplish for yourself and in the event that it can help you recuperate, why is it so hard?

There are a few reasons: You’re loaded with considerations of reprisal or requital; you appreciate feeling predominant; you don’t know how to determine the circumstance; you’re dependent on the adrenaline that outrage gives; you self-recognize as a “casualty”; or you’re worried about the possibility that that by forgetting you need to re-interface—or lose your association—with the other individual. These reasons not to pardon can be determined by turning out to be more acquainted with yourself, with your musings and emotions, and with your limits.

You will in any case recall what happened, however you will never again be bound by it. Having worked through the sentiments and realized what you have to do to reinforce your limits or get your needs met, you are better ready to deal with yourself later on. Forgetting the other individual is an eminent approach to respect yourself. It certifies that you should be cheerful. Forgive because YOU deserve it.

Failure Produces Success: True Story

Success is the fruit of failure. I’ll say it one more time: Success is the fruit of failure. What does that mean? Before I get into the explanation of this well known fact, I’d like to tell a story which will serve as my deliverance into those words.

When my oldest brother was in high school, his graduating class didn’t have the slightest idea of what they wanted to do after graduation. I kid you not, absolutely everyone was clueless except him; he knew exactly what he was going to do. Back then, jobs were scarce. Jobs today are still hard to come by and I believe they are more difficult to snag in today’s present times than they were back then because everything is made so difficult. More on that rant later. My brother’s response to this setback was military because he believed there was no other way.

Fast forward a bit to save time—after studying for the ASVAB test to be accepted into the military, he takes the test three times and fails all three times. What is he going to do now? His believed-to-be one shot at a decent life in this world is done and gone. A few years pass and my brother gets his driver’s license at 21 along with his first job ( I told you it was tough) working at Little Caesars. He worked that job for 4 years before getting a job at a gas station. He ends up crashing our grandpa’s car (because he never had his own) then getting fired shortly after buying a new car. Now what is he going to do? There was unemployment option and he didn’t own a credit card for emergency.

At this point, it’s clear he’s in trouble. He has bills piling up and feels like he’s drowning along with his credit rating in letters and phone calls from debt collectors. After being unemployed and searching for jobs, he get’s hired at a local supermarket and has high hopes this will change his life. To add to his discouragement, this job only worked him 5-15 hours of the ENTIRE WEEK. That’s no way to make bill payments and safe for a future.

One day, our mother calls him up and says she knows a guy who just may have a job for him. Desperately, he calls the number she gave him to call and spoke with this professional gentleman. Today, my brother has a great job and is slowly climbing back to where he was financially while looking to make a career of his current job as he improves and masters his craft with his new employment.

I’m sorry to bore you with a drawn out story, but the moral of this story is failure will, at some point and time, breed success. Success is a journey, not a destination and that is exactly what my brother knew while going through his trials and tribulation. This doesn’t mean, by any means, the obstacles are finished coming and the trials cease. Anything—good or bad, can happen and it’s important to take both with an open mind.

Something my husband taught me follow the same words my brother lives by as I talk about in this guest post article for Uncustomary of how to worry less. There’s no need to worry about what you can’t do anything about or in my brother’s case, if you can do something about it then do it and don’t worry.

Patience Is A Virtue

There’s a saying that goes, “Patience is a virtue,” but I’m curious of how many people know what it means. If I look up the word “virtue” in two different dictionaries, of course I’m going to get two different definitions. One definition of the word “virtue” says, “the quality of doing what is right and avoiding what is wrong.” The other definition is, “Behavior showing high moral standards.” If I put that together with the old saying, patience is a virtue is to wait and behave without getting upset.

We can’t deny that we have lost the meaning to this saying and become more impatient as a society. Today, everything is done fast. We had to wait for the mail when I was growing up whereas today it’s mostly instant E-mail and text messages.  My mother and grandmother would prepare dinner for me as a child and it would take time. I remember waiting 30 minutes just to be able to eat and if you wait that long at a restaurant, people begin to get angry and will either leave or not tip. Today, preparing food is what we do on big holidays for the entire family and we live out of the freezer by eating frozen dinners that are already prepared for us.

The microwave saves us so much time having to wait for a stove or an oven to cook it, however even microwaves seem to be taking too long for us. On my lunch break at work, I recall seeing a co-worker standing by the microwave, staring into it and saying, “Come on….Come on, come on, come on…” to it. Fast-food restaurants  have ruined us with their offer of hot meals made ready to be eaten while on the go. If you eat out often, you’ve already been teaching yourself some terribly bad habits of what to expect from life. We have been training ourselves in the ways of instant gratification and that shows the lack of discipline we have acquired.

The Battle For Focus

Have you ever gotten out of bed and just had a feeling about the day? It’s a feeling that can’t be described, but in the back of your head somewhere you just know that today wasn’t going to be your day. You get yourself prepared to start working and realize that you just can’t seem to focus on anything. Noise fills your head and every thought of things you should be doing, things you could be doing, but mostly it’s the noise of things you actually want to do. Before you know it, you find yourself drifting off into daydreams, browsing pointless things on the web and being completely unproductive.

It’s an internal battle for focus that I am in daily. The battle never really stops, but it does subside for sometime. There are so many things I could do, that might be worth it. The distraction of a funny video on Facebook or getting lost in the beauty and gifs of tumblr are just a couple of enemies of focus that hold me in their clutches. How do I compete against that?

First, get serious.

Oftentimes, the very first time you lose the battle of focus sets the pattern for the entire day. If you lose one battle, then another, it could be an indication that today is not going to be in favor for your productivity. You have given the distractions too much power already. Blocking and resisting temptation is like a muscle and the more your practice it and work at it, the stronger it will become and the easier this first battle for focus and productivity will be to win. The very first temptation you have, you must resist!

Get past the starting point.

Getting started is the hardest part of the day because, for me at least, I begin thinking about all I have to do and how long it will take. Then I begin thinking of what I could do instead which then turns into what I wish I could be doing. With all this thinking, the clock has now flown by 30 minutes and I have done absolutely nothing.

The trick is to stop thinking, start doing. Once you get past the starting point, you begin to build up momentum and you actually want to keep going. Thinking about a thing has never gotten anything accomplished. Shake the distractions out of your head once you start thinking and say,”No! Get to work!” You’ll be surprised how well this can work.

Get other people involved.

If possible, I try creating tasks or goals that involve someone else. One thing I can’t stand to do more than procrastinate is to let someone down. For example, cooking dinner. I think about how much work goes into it. I have to take out the pots, pans and other dishes. I have to get out the ingredients going into the meal, cooking for 20 minutes or more, then there’s the mess to deal with. When thinking about those things, the idea of cooking doesn’t seem so great.

To power against that, one trick I do is to think of something that is stronger than the thought of not cooking, such as my family. I begin thinking that my husband has been working all day to buy food for me to just simply not cook; he’s gotta be hungry. I begin thinking about my children and how they could be at a public school if I didn’t home school them. I say to myself, “Dana Sibilsky, you know good and well they could be eating whatever mystery meat and slop they cook that the school system says is ‘fit to eat'”. If I don’t cook, what will they eat? Cereal? Frozen dinners? Absolutely not! I start cooking because then I am driven by motivation.

For you, perhaps the secret is to find something that empowers you. What drives you? What sets your heart on fire (besides pizza)? Find something that will empower you though the distractions and use that weapon to win the battle for focus each and everyday.

The Psychology Behind The Smile

Have you ever heard that smiling changes your mood? At first, I didn’t think much about it. I have been sad and tried smiling, but alas, I was still sad. There are a few sayings and quotes that support this claim that smiling can have an affect on your mood and it all starts with the brain.  It has been a saying that has been around for many a generation that goes, “Smile for a while to make bad feelings docile.” or even in the words of Thich Hanh who said, “Sometimes joy is the reason why you smile, but sometimes your smile can be the reason for your joy.”

What is there to smile about?

Other than to be grateful that you woke up today and when you got out of bed your legs still worked, there is plenty of reasons to smile. First and foremost, the smile is a universal language that known to everyone that if you smile at them, you’re friendly, warm and welcoming. This is the reason why I don’t believe in pretending to like someone by smiling. My mother would always tell me, “Dana Sibilsky, you’re lying to their face with your face by making that person believe you are warm and welcoming to that person.” Let’s be honest here.

When you smile, you appear more attractive unless you are a man. Apparently, women find men who don’t smile as much more masculine and attractive. Being a woman myself, I dub this as false. Smiling has been recorded in multiple researches to lift up your mood and even the mood of those who see you smile because, as mentioned before, smiling makes you seem friendly. Who doesn’t feel happier when surrounded by friendly people?

Smiling is catchy

Probably something that is more contagious than the flu or a common cold, smiling ranks up higher on the list. If you smile at someone it’s a normal reaction for people to smile back and if they don’t then it’s simply because they have made an effort not to return a smile. The reasons why it’s catchy are in the mind.

Happy smiling brains

It’s all in your head. No, literally it’s all in your head. Studies found that the stress fighting neuropeptides are activated when you smile. These little guys are what help the body understand that we are happy, sad, stressed, angry, etc.. Other chemicals are brought into play just by spreading a smile across your face such as endorphins, dopamine and serotonin which help you feel good—especially the endorphins, which are most powerful pain reliever known to man and they are natural! That doesn’t mean you’ll get a rush of endorphins to end your pain just by smiling.

In conclusion, there is plenty to smile about and with this information, there are many more reasons to smile and smile big. Even if you have to “fake it until you make it,” a smile will bring you up to where you should always be.

Birds of A Feather Flock Together

There’s an old saying that goes, “Birds of a feather flock together.” This saying is basically meaning that you are who you choose to associate with. Thinking back to where I was years ago, I’m surprised and thankful for where I am now. We have all been there, haven’t we? Maybe you’ve been in the presence of bad company or perhaps you still are.

One of my favorite quotes I heard from a respectable businessman is that your income with be the average of the top 5 people you hang out with most. When I was first starting out in life, my income from my minimal wage job was 116 a month. My friends weren’t exactly the best people to look up to for advice in advancing forward through life and I was the only one working out of the 3 of us. You know what happened next? You guessed it—I surrounded myself with losers with no aim or direction in life and they sponged off me. I paid for the gas and the food. It was very soon that I noticed I was becoming just like them…Broke!

When I met my husband, I learned there is more power in who we associate ourselves with we might think. The people you surround yourself with molds your beliefs, morals, standards, perspective on life and as we have learned recently, even your money. How did I fix this? The answer is very simple: Dana Sibilsky had to pull the plug. That was the plug that connected me to a lot of people that I learned were not good for my future. I had to learn I have a life to live and if you’re not going forward with me, you will be left behind. I had to stop living to please people.

Now, let me clarify. I’m not saying stop caring for people. Absolutely not! I’m saying through time, you’ll learn which people can be helped and which people will sponge off the blessings you give them. Those who make an effort are those who want to better themselves. You might want to keep these people around.